Relationship Checklists for Couples

Ready-to-use checklists for the recurring practices that keep couples close. Save, print, or use as a starting point.

Weekly Couple Check-In

Use this at the start of each week or during a standing weekly ritual.

□Find a quiet 20-30 minute window without phones or interruptions
□Each partner shares how they're feeling this week (no more than 5 minutes each)
□Review what's on the calendar — work, social, obligations — and flag anything stressful
□Identify one moment of connection to protect this week (a dinner, a walk, a conversation)
□Each person names one thing they need more of from the other
□Each person names one thing they appreciate about the other this week
□Agree on anything that needs follow-up before next week's check-in

Use this 3-5 days before your planned date night.

□Confirm the date and time (both partners agree it's protected)
□Decide the activity — or agree to decide day-of
□Handle any logistics (reservation, babysitter, groceries) early so the day isn't stressful
□Agree to put phones away or at least off the table for the first hour
□Pick one thing to talk about that's not logistics or schedules
□Afterward: name one thing you enjoyed about the evening

Set aside 45-60 minutes at the end of each month.

□How did connection feel this month overall — 1 to 10?
□What moments stand out as high points?
□What moments were the hardest?
□Did anything go unaddressed that should be discussed now?
□Are our current routines (date nights, check-ins, rituals) working? What needs adjustment?
□What's one thing each of us wants to do differently next month?
□Name one goal or intention for the relationship for the coming month
□End with something positive — appreciation, a memory, a plan you're both looking forward to

Use this when you've had a stretch of low connection and want to actively reset.

□Acknowledge the stretch without blame — "We've been ships in the night" is enough
□Each partner names what was most draining about the past period
□Each partner names what they missed most about each other
□Name one small thing to do in the next 24 hours that signals reconnection
□Schedule a longer conversation if needed (don't do it tired or on the fly)
□Reinstate any routines that lapsed
□Agree on one realistic way to protect more time together in the coming weeks

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