How Couple Check-Ins Work

What a check-in is

A check-in records a mood, a few ratings from 1 to 5, including how connected you feel, and an optional note. A separate private journal field stays private. Your partner sees your check-in only if you choose to share it. It takes a few minutes.

Why keep it small

A check-in is meant to be small. A few minutes on an ordinary day is enough. Some couples find a short, regular check-in easier than waiting for one big talk.

What a check-in is not

• Not a performance review. A check-in asks you to rate your mood and a few other things from 1 to 5. It is a note to yourself, and to your partner if you choose. It is not a grade for the relationship.
• Not an argument trigger. A check-in surfaces awareness, not demands. What partners do with that awareness is up to them.
• Not a substitute for real conversation. If something important comes up in a check-in, it should lead to a deliberate conversation — not be resolved inside the check-in itself.
• Not a test. The app shows a check-in streak and has a few badges. Missing a day is fine. Just pick it up again.

How frequency works

The check-in is built for once a day. But three or four a week is fine too. Pick a pace you can keep up.

What Cupid Calendar adds to check-ins

In Cupid Calendar, check-ins sit next to your shared calendar and guided tools. You can look back at your own check-ins whenever you like, and see charts of them. If something comes up in a check-in, you can open a guided tool or plan time to talk.